Author Archives: Brian Lanza

The Power of Dressing Well

                                           

 

It is amazing how the mind reacts and how much the mind retains if you dress up. It is very powerful.

 

Dress is more powerful than most people think. You would be amazed what you can get and at times receive just by the way you dress.

I bring this up because when my Father was ill we received more respect and achieved more in direct relation to the way we dress

You act the way you dress. Through the years when my Father and I went places and he made an effort to do something.  One comment was I bet he was something in his hay day, because of the way we were dress.

 

When we went to the Theater

 

When we went to the theater and because he moved a lot, the manager said because of the way your dressed we could have box seats.

 

Traveling on an airplane

 

When we bought economy seats on an airplane and we were in white dress shirts and navy blue blazers and because of his difficulties, they put us in first class without our asking, at any extra charge.

 

Dress code in School

 

When I was in High School the dress code changed and allowed the students to wear blue jeans, shorts, and tee shirts. When that happened then the students demanded coffee,   candy, and soda machines which at that time was against state law. They got them all. Then a talking study hall and a juke box. The end result since the students were in control the teachers were not able to  teach. Everything went out of control and it all started with the dress code. To prove a point: I personally never change the way I dress. I went to high school dressed in a dress shirt, dress pants, pair of dress shoes. My teachers treated me with more respect than they did my follow students. I wanted to prove a point about dress. So three times, two months apart, I went to school in blue jeans and sneakers dressed like the rest of the students. Those days I was not treated with the same respect by my teachers as I was when I was dressed up.

 

Dressing Him Up When He Was Sick

 

 

When my Father was in a nursing home he was in the big reclining wheel chair. When I took him out each week I dressed him in a white turtle neck and a navy blue blazer and dress pants. I refused to let him out any other way.    Because he was dressed the numbers of people that walked up to talk to him increased and that interaction meant a lot. Because he was dressed up, he didn’t look as sick as he actually was. So if I asked for help, people helped me without any hesitation. If he were in sweatpants as the nurses wanted to leave him in, people would have stayed away from us. He would have looked so sick that people would not have wanted to chance helping us. He would never have had the inter action of people talking to him. He also might have acted differently showing how sick he was. But he did not act as if he was sick. Why you may ask? You act the way you dress.

I never walked in the nursing home without a dress shirt and blazer. I meant business. I never would have gotten all I did if I wasn’t dressed up.

 

When I go to Seminars

 

I go to seminars explaining to people what and how I turned my Father around with Huntington Disease. I go in a business suit. I bring things in and explain how things can be done. I have blown people’s minds. What I say has left an impression, and I am asked if I am a doctor at times. I have had people come back to me years later remembering what I said and tell me they are using it. If I had said everything the same in blue jeans or any casual dress, I am convinced people would not have taken my words as seriously and would have   gotten as much out of me and would not have remembered what I said.   They would not have asked me more questions about how things were done. I haven’t gone to a seminar yet I haven’t blown someone’s mind. I know that the way I was dress made it more professional looking and has made the difference and I change many lives that would never have changed if I was not dressed up.

 

So if you want people to treat you above the norm, get things people say you can’t get, you want to act right,  to impress others. Then dress up. The way most people dress today you will stand out and get things others can’t get.

Dress is more powerful than you can believe.

 

How to let Frustrations Out

Care taking can be both rewarding and frustrating. In order to be a good caretaker you have to keep your mind clear and without hurting the mind of the person you’re caring for. Frustrated women

When you are a caretaker there are times you ask them to do something and they won’t do it for you. You may think if you raise your voice that may emphasize it and they may do it for you. Think again. What you are doing is you are letting out your frustrations out on the person you are caring for. When you let the frustrations out on the person you are caring for you are hurting them. When you hurt them you hurt yourself. But you are human and you need a way of letting it out. This is what you can do.

Go away from the person you are caring for and get a chair and a newspaper. Take the newspaper and roll it up length wise so it is like a baseball bat. Take the paper and start hitting the chair and start to talk whether it is raising you voice saying what you wanted to say to the person you are caring for until you feel good inside yourself. When you feel good inside yourself you may stop. You just let everything out and no one was hurt.
At times I did not have the time or place to do that so I did this

I took a bath every night. I sat in the bath tub and looked at the wall and vision someone. That person I vision I let that person have it. I said what I might have wanted to say to my Father and didn’t stop until I felt good. I let everything out and no one was hurt.

Exercise ‘as effective as drugs’ for common diseases

It has long been established that regular exercise is beneficial for health in general, but researchers now think exercise is “potentially as effective” as drug intervention, and they suggest it “should be considered as a viable alternative to, or alongside, drug therapy.” Women walking with dumbells on the beach

Back in the early 1980’s my Father’s body was a stick. He was walking small steps to the side, talking one word sentences, was shaking, and was told in Jan. 1990 he would not stand up within three months and be a vegetable within the year. His brain would continue to shrink. There was no way around it.

Think again

I force my Father to walk half our block each night. He was walking small steps to the side. It took him 35 to 40 minutes but he did it

He was talking one word sentences. I had him trying to talk as we were walking

I had him use his hands. I said let us use those shakes.

I am a self-employed landscaper and I took him to work. I gave him things to remember. It was important. It was business. He started reminding me. He was starting to remind me daily from day to day and even next week. He exercised that memory. That exercising I believe kept his memory better than the memory medicine. In later years the doctor cut back the amount of memory medicine but he never lost it because he was always using it. He was proud to remind you of whatever.

Then he started walking more. He did little things on the job. We started walking more all the time. I never did anything handicap. Then I had him treading water in a pool. He starting out treading water for 15 minutes and over time he was treading water between 2.5 and 3 hours non stop.

Six months later he asked to go to London.  He and I were the only ones that said it could be done. He went each day he started walking a little straighter and a little faster. He came home walking straight as a stick fast as can be. He got his appetite back and was taken off all his appetite medicine and half his medicine for his shakes and did even better.

In two years with all the physical and mental therapy he got all the mussels back in his legs and arms a pot belly and lived a normal life doing things for himself, for 12 more years

Ten years later they said I repaired his brain

Activity is the best medicine not what comes from the drug store!

Everything Having To Do With Mind Over Matter

                             The Power of the Mind

 

 

The mind is a very powerful tool people do not realize how powerful it is.

 

My Father had Huntington’s disease.   He fought the disease for over 42 years. The last 16 to 17 years of his life he was told he would not stand up within three months and be a vegetable within the year. There was no way around it. The brain was shrinking and fast. There was nothing you could do to stop it.  He was walking small steps and to the side, was talking one word sentences, and shaking liked crazy. He shook so much when we bought a new box spring and mattress for his bed that had a fifth teen year warranty. They had to replace it a year and a half later. My Father was about to accept the fact he would became a vegetable. His Mother had the disease and had care for 20 years ten of those years she was a vegetable.

I would not let him give up. I saw light and people thought I just wasn’t going to accept reality. I said Dad you always told my brother, sister, and I when we were children you were the greatest. Every boxer that gets on TV says he is the greatest but has to get into the ring to prove it. You say you’re the greatest we are going to walk, talk, use our hands, and we are going to prove it. We have a goal; we are going to prove them wrong. Anyone who says you can’t do it, we are going to do it to prove them wrong.

So I told him our first goal was going to be the hardest of all. Each goal after that will become easier because the goal we achieve will help us accomplish the next goal. So we walk half our block which took thirty five to forty minutes. But he did it. I told him practice makes perfect. As we were walking I asked him, what are we going to talk about? He said nothing. So I said ok let’s talk about nothing. If you not going to talk let’s sing. He laughed because a singer he was not even with a voice. So then he tried to talk. When we walked and talked around the block I held his hand loosely to let him know we were doing it together.  Then I said we are going to use his hands and use those hands with all his shakes. He started drying dishes.

I am a self-employed landscaper and I took him to work with me. I gave him things to remember. He started reminding me both long and short term. Then he started giving me orders. When that happen he started talking full sentences oppose to one word sentences. Then he was coming up with ideas on the job. They were good ideas. He should not have been able to reason with the disease and he started reasoning very well. He started building self-confidence. He felt needed. Everyone needs to feel needed and was proud of what he was accomplishing. Every night after we ate dinner we walked half our block and talk.

Six months later. He asked to go to London England. There wasn’t one person other than he and I that said it could be done. The doctors said to me that my Father and I were dreamers. How is he going to get around when he is walking small steps, he isn’t eating and drinking enough. He is on appetite medicine and is dehydrated. How is he going to manage the plane ride? I said Dad if we go to London we are not handicap he are normal. We are going to walk, take the bus, the underground, and whatever other train. We are going to eat and drink more.  As we discuss from day one we have a goal we are going to prove them wrong aren’t we?  He was hurt he was put down before he even got there. I said Dad let then be concern but we have nothing to be concern about because we set our goal to prove them wrong. Right? He said OK and that ease his mind.

So we went to London before he left he knew what he wanted to see and do. He had to be at a certain place at a certain time.  Why my parents went over for three days before I got there to get over the jet lag. When I got there I said OK Dad you know what we discuss.   He was trying to keep up with the pedestrians which were walking fast. Each day he started walking a little straighter and a little faster. He had to catch one train to another to be on time. He did it. He started eating and drinking a lot more. He accomplished what he wanted to see and do. Twelve days later when he got home that 35 to 40 minute walk half our block took him before he left took him  12 minutes when he got home. No one recognize him at first. The friends, neighbors, and doctors all asked What in the world did you do? How did you do this? We put our mind to doing it. We had a goal to prove anyone who said we could not do it wrong and that we did.

When he went back to work with me since he was walking much better he started doing physical as well as  mental  work  with me on the job. In two years he had arms like a major league baseball player, all the mussels back in his legs, a pot belly, full neck, losing all his shakes, eating and drinking very well. I was able to take away his appetite medicine when he got home from London and within two years was able to reduce his medicine for his shakes because staying so active he lost all his shakes. He went to work with me and did things for himself for twelve more years. The numbers of people that even were complete strangers were watching him with disbelief.

For 4 more years he ended up in a nursing home. His leg lock and he then could not walk. He did things in the nursing home no one could believe what they were watching. Some nurses burst into tears it was so powerful. They ask how is he doing this. We put our mind to it.

Ten years after I did this they said I repaired his brain. They learned that if you work the brain hard enough the brain has a way of repairing itself.

The mind is a powerful tool.  More than you can image.

All Things Having To Do With The Mind

The mind is a very powerful tool people do not realize how powerful it is.
Man thinking using his mind

My Father had Huntington’s disease.   He fought the disease for over 42 years. The last 16 to 17 years of his life he was told he would not stand up within three months and be a vegetable within the year. There was no way around it. The brain was shrinking and fast. There was nothing you could do to stop it.  He was walking small steps and to the side, was talking one word sentences, and shaking liked crazy. He shook so much when we bought a new box spring and mattress for his bed that had a fifth teen year warranty. They had to replace it a year and a half later. My Father was about to accept the fact he would became a vegetable. His Mother had the disease and had care for 20 years ten of those years she was a vegetable.

I would not let him give up. I saw light and people thought I just wasn’t going to accept reality. I said Dad you always told my brother, sister, and I when we were children you were the greatest. Every boxer that gets on TV says he is the greatest but has to get into the ring to prove it. You say you’re the greatest we are going to walk, talk, use our hands, and we are going to prove it. We have a goal; we are going to prove them wrong. Anyone who says you can’t do it, we are going to do it to prove them wrong. We have nothing to lose by trying ,only to gain.

So I told him our first goal was going to be the hardest of all. Each goal after that will become easier because the goal we achieve will help us accomplish the next goal. So we walk half our block which took thirty five to forty minutes. But he did it. I told him practice makes perfect. As we were walking I asked him, what are we going to talk about? He said nothing. So I said ok let’s talk about nothing. If you not going to talk let’s sing. He laughed because a singer he was not even with a voice. So then he tried to talk. When we walked and talked around the block I held his hand loosely to let him know we were doing it together.  Then I said we are going to use his hands and use those hands with all his shakes. He started drying dishes.

I am a self-employed landscaper and I took him to work with me. I gave him things to remember. He started reminding me both long and short term. Then he started giving me orders. When that happen he started talking full sentences oppose to one word sentences. Then he was coming up with ideas on the job. They were good ideas. He should not have been able to reason with the disease and he started reasoning very well. He started building self-confidence. He felt needed. Everyone needs to feel needed and was proud of what he was accomplishing. Every night after we ate dinner we walked half our block and talk.

Six months later. He asked to go to London England. There wasn’t one person other than he and I that said it could be done. The doctors said to me that my Father and I were dreamers. How is he going to get around when he is walking small steps, he isn’t eating and drinking enough. He is on appetite medicine and is dehydrated. How is he going to manage the plane ride? I said Dad if we go to London we are not handicap we are normal. We are going to walk, take the bus, the underground, and whatever other train. We are going to eat and drink more.  As we discuss from day one we have a goal we are going to prove them wrong aren’t we?  He was hurt he was put down before he even got there. I said Dad let then be concern but we have nothing to be concern about because we set our goal to prove them wrong. Right? He said OK and that ease his mind.

So we went to London before he left he knew what he wanted to see and do. He had to be at a certain place at a certain time.  Why my parents went over for three days before I got there to get over the jet lag. When I got there I said OK Dad you know what we discuss. Now lets do it   He was trying to keep up with the pedestrians which were walking fast. Each day he started walking a little straighter and a little faster. He had to catch one train to another to be on time. He did it. He started eating and drinking a lot more. He accomplished what he wanted to see and do. Twelve days later when he got home that 35 to 40 minute walk half our block took him before he left took him  12 minutes when he got home. No one recognize him at first. The friends, neighbors, and doctors all asked What in the world did you do? How did you do this? We put our mind to doing it. We had a goal to prove anyone who said we could not do it wrong and that we did. Mind over matter will there is a way.

When he went back to work with me since he was walking much better he started doing physical as well as  mental  work  with me on the job. In two years he had arms like a major league baseball player, all the mussels back in his legs, a pot belly, full neck, losing all his shakes, eating and drinking very well. I was able to take away his appetite medicine when he got home from London and within two years was able to reduce his medicine for his shakes because staying so active he lost all his shakes. He went to work with me and did things for himself for twelve more years. The numbers of people that even were complete strangers were watching him with disbelief.

For 4 more years he ended up in a nursing home. His leg lock and he then could not walk. He did things in the nursing home no one could believe what they were watching. Some nurses burst into tears it was so powerful. They ask how is he doing this. We put our mind to it.

Ten years after I did this they said I repaired his brain. They learned that if you work the brain hard enough the brain has a way of repairing itself.

The mind is a powerful tool.  More than you can image.